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! l. ll v H, : Y. i . MARRIAGE AND RELATIONS OF SEXES I67 perhaps not be made for any but a pzincipal wife. The only chief Wife whom‘ Deacon met was very much of a gramie dame, disdainful, haughty, and imperious. Even where a man has only two wives, passionate jealousy may break out between them. To give an example: a certain man married two women, but slept only with the younger one. The elder one, being jealous,‘ was constantly quarrelling with the younger. One day she took a knife and tried to cut the latter with it. Eventually she was beaten off, and the younger woman, running away, picked up a Schneider rifle. The onlookers all laughed, thinking that she did not know how to shoot, but in this they were mistaken. She ï¬Åred at the chief wife, but missed her. The latter, however,", thought that the bullet had struck her, and yelled out. Eventually it was proved to her that she had not been shot and she was paciï¬Åed. The children of each wife reside with her in her house, the girls till they are of marriageable age, the boys until they.are advanced to the men's ï¬Åre, when they sleep with their father or in the club-house. Premarital Relations and Adultery Although, as we have seen, virginity is not a prerequisite of honourable marriage, it is certainly an asset to a girl, or, rather, perhaps to her people. Nothing, however, has been recorded of the premarital life of women nor of their opportunities of gaining sexexperience. After marriage the relation of a husband towards his wife‘ resolves itself to a large extent in the attitude of the husband towards the possibility or actuality of another man having committed adultery with her; while on the other hand the attitude of a woman towards her husband is based upon the possibility or actuality of his having been unfaithful to her. At least three types of husband are distinguished by the natives. Two of these have already been mentioned, of which one is that termed nï¬Åmur nen nimnmogh. Such a'man is not physically dominating nor feared, but he has an intense “ monogamous â€ù desire for his wife or wives ; a man without yearnings for other women but overwhelmingly and constantly longing for his own. He is ever obsessed by the fear that another man, stronger than himself, may steal his wife. He cannot rest easy if he knows that she is about alone, for he knows that he
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